I have been musing about my years of late teen and early 20s recently, and when everything converged hence the following insights. Crying “Clarity come to me now! In the name of Jesus Christ I command you!” does really help. Everything has to listen to your command if you have faith and if you command it in the name of Jesus Christ. Even abstract things such as “clarity” has to obey if you apply this principle.
It bothers me that often times I had allowed self-limiting thoughts sabotage and stifle my potentials and successes. There were successes that I didn’t really understand how they happened, but I somehow achieved them. Looking back I can say with certainty that the principle of faith was the key that led to those successes. When I failed, or something that I dread would happen happened, the main cause was my “negative faith”.
“Negative faith” isn’t just the absence of faith, and it is more than just doubts. It is “faith in doubts” or “faith in the deceptions”. Instead of believing in the promises of God, negative faith places faith in the doubts, or fears. Negative faith believes that the things that one fears would actualize. It predicts the negative outcomes. It analyzes the situations or experiences, and concludes that the negatives will persist even though the words of God oppose them.
Negative faith rationalizes the existence of the negatives and looks for ways to cope with them. It lets the contradictions exist, even while they oppose the words of God.
Negative faith can be very subtle. Sincere Christians can have it but not realize it. In the last year, ever since I wrote the articles “Parable of the Mustard Seed“ and “Testimonies of Faith“, my eyes have been opened and started to recognize more and more instances of how I, and others around me, practice negative faith without realizing it. When I catch myself saying things or thinking things that contradicted the words of God, I rebuked the thoughts and words. The results are liberating. I understand the Bible more, and am able to recall and quote the words of God better.
Hopefully by this point you are already sympathizing with what I feel here. Maybe you are also thinking about times that you did what I did to myself. The fact is that almost all people do it to themselves in many different forms and ways. We truly have become the master of negative faith, and we have devised many subtles and creatives ways to think and say things that sabotage our destinies.
People practice negative faith in different styles. They are really hard to spot. It took me a year to figure out the styles and there may even be more. Hopefully by the end of this article, you will pass on the torch and bring this battle into your own sphere of influence. Never let yourself or your loved ones to stay in these traps.
Styles of Negative Faith and biblical lessons that counter them:
1. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
This is a major one. Many of us are really good at predicting our predicaments. Somehow the images and scenarios in our heads often find their ways into reality. Have you wondered why? We talk about it and analyze it based on logics and past experiences. It seems very reasonable that the thing we dread could very well happen, and boy it does. What about this bible verse?
4 I sought the LORD, and he answered me;
he delivered me from all my fears.
The Lord promised that He would deliver you from all your fears if you sought Him. If we don’t demonstrate that faith, but instead talk about our fears and groom predictions, He can’t save us from our fears. Faith is necessary before we can get anything from the Lord.
26 The LORD said to Moses and Aaron: 27 “How long will this wicked community grumble against me? I have heard the complaints of these grumbling Israelites. 28 So tell them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the LORD, I will do to you the very thing I heard you say: 29 In this wilderness your bodies will fall—every one of you twenty years old or more who was counted in the census and who has grumbled against me.
Don’t ever say things that prophesize the coming of unpleasant events, such as sickness, rejections, failures, disasters, betrayal, and the like. It might feel good to vent out the feelings, but do you really mean to contradict the words of God? If you do, the be prepared to accept that just as you say, so shall it be. This is why we need to consciously exercise active faith to reaffirm our agreement with the words. Not only do we have to read the Bible often, but we have to agree with what it says in our unique situation, all the time.
2. Rational Analysts
We can easily find out quite a few disadvantageous factors that could work against us in everything we do, if we apply our mind to those things. Whenever you analyze things, it can go both ways. There are negative and positive sides to everything. I think positive thinking is overrated, but negative thinking isn’t good either if it contradicts with the words of God. So what if you are too young? or too old? So what if you don’t speak English? People succeed left and right no matter where they are. People get rich in their 90s. An old man accepted Jesus at age 103, and had brought more than a hundred of people to Christ before he died at 105. Some become ultra successful before 16 (Justin Bieber?)
You can find a lot of weaknesses in these people, but they still made it despites many factors that work against them.
Humans tend to label. Somehow if we put a label on every single thing in our world, we feel safer. Sadly, we seldom double check our labels against the words of God. We labels people as dumb, unattractive, strange, lame, suck, fat, creep, old, immature, jerk, fob (fresh off the board)… These labels maybe true, but we should at least work on being more biblical (and accurate) when we try to label ourselves and others.
And don’t ask why all the time, “Why am I ALWAYS sinning?”, or “Why do I fail again?”. They are not really questions so much as complains and doubts. These questions will give power to the very things that you are trying to defeat or avoid.
Remember, everything can change right now right here if you exercise biblical faith. Every mountain has to move if you command it to move with the faith of mustard seed. Instead of wasting time and energy analyzing and labeling our situation, why don’t we look into the Bible and find specific messages from God that negate the negatives in our life? Everything is possible to him who believes.
3. Therapeutic Chatter
When people have destroyed their life enough with self-fulfilling prophecies and over analyses, they started to feel the weight of regrets and pains (such as depression or mid-life crises). If you are old enough, you know what I am talking about. At some points in our life, we will feel our share of regrets: things that we could have done, opportunities that we had missed, people that we failed to cherish, events and moments of rejection…
So we follow the good old advice of the experts and think we should talk about our past to ensure our psychological and mental health. We recall hurtful things and events, and vent them out to our therapists and friends. It always feel good at the moment, but the more we wail and talk about our past, the more we repeat it. Don’t talk in a way that gives power to the things you talk about.
For example, don’t say, “I always get burned in relationship. This is my Xth breakup (or divorce). What do you think? I really don’t know what to do now! It’s very painful!” “I wish I am as lucky as she is!” or “I wish I am smarter, but I am so dumb!” At least stop using present tense when you talk about your negative in life. Don’t say “I always” this or that if it is followed by something negative that you don’t want in your life. Don’t talk about how you always sin or fail at doing something, and don’t label yourself as dumb or whatever, because these are totally at odds with what God says.
What did God say?
3 ‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’ (SK: Never say you don’t know! Because if you call God He will answer you and tell you what you don’t know)
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (SK: Don’t call yourself stupid! Wisdom is free and you can have it right away if you just ask)
What if you don’t follow the advice and instead continue to speak doubts?
6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
You will get nothing from God! Nothing means nothing. Any good thing that the Bible says is yours will never come true for you if you don’t have faith to receive it.
So instead of talking about the mountains in your life, exercise your faith to remove them now. Instead of talking about how you got rejected by someone, pray for the special person that God thinks you deserve to have and believe that God will give you if you simply ask and not doubt.
Can you imagine the General of the army of USA speaking to the press with sobs when he updated them during the 2003 invasion of Iraq? No, it would never happen. He would talk about how fast it was going to be and how the Saddam’s regime would be over. He would talk about how amazing the plan was going to be executed and stuff.
A Christian is like the General of the heavenly army. We all have the entire heaven and earth in our disposal—if we only exerce our biblical rights to command them. It would be absurb to hear Christians talking about their circumstances and struggles with tears in their eyes, as if they can’t control it, but in fact they do have control. If they only knew.
However, we do can cry for sinners, because no one can control their will if they refuse to repent. Just don’t cry about the circumstances, events, or abstract things such as “talents”, “depression”, “success”, because these things don’t have free will, and therefore have to obey your command. Crying over these things is like a kid falling on the floor, and then get mad at the floor.
4. Step By Step How To
Just like how positive thinking is overrated, the how-to is also overrated. Today we have so many books, seminars, workshops, sermons, and etc that teach us the “How”, but like the negative faith, we can put too much confidence and faith into the “how”.
Should I call it “how faith”? Doesn’t sound like a good idea…
Ok, the “how to” really isn’t that important. According to the Bible:
And He said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed on the ground, and should sleep by night and rise by day, and the seed should sprout and grow, he himself does not know how.
Though it might seems like everything that we care to desire comes step by step, but in fact it is not. The steps are just the way God choose to do things. He is organized and methological, but the ultimate reason that things come about isn’t the steps, it is faith.
You don’t really need to worry about the steps. They will manifest themselves at the right time in the right place if you simply have faith.
Be careful, because if you one day achieve wild success by hitting on the right spiritual note, but couldn’t see the real spiritual reason why, you may attribute your success to the “how” and the steps. Instead of giving glory to God, you announce to the world how you achieve your success by going through certain steps and hows. That would be bad.
Next time if you want to achieve something, pray and immediately act upon the spiritual intuition that you sense in your spirit. I find that God really answer this kind of prayer real quick. The steps that it really takes to reach your goal are really few and simple, but if you ask people, they will most likely complicate it and lead you to every direction except the most direct path that God impresses upon your spirit.
Some people do offer some good information, but you have to exercise your spiritual discernments. The good also come with the bad. Whenever people show you the straight path and the crooked paths, just take the straight path.
The shortest distant between point A and point Z is a straight line. Don’t go from B to C, and then D, and then E F G H D C B D C… You will be lost in the labyrinth before you know it. To know more about what I am trying to say, go to point 6-7.
I will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron.
Hold on to Isaiah 45:2 firmly, and God will honor His promise if you believe. If you think this promise only worked for people in the Old Testament, or that it was only for King Cyrus (See Isaiah 45) then it really won’t deliver for you.
5. Pride of Experiences
People seldom allow you to frog leap toward the destinations you want to go. They would give you all kind of guilt trips that they believe you have to go through. They think you should pay your due just like they do, before you deserve any success that they don’t have. Therefore, most of the time it is not wise to consult with normal people. They are normal, not extraordinary, because of their lack of faith. If you have to consult, consult those who actually have faith and demonstrated results.
People would talk about how they had climbed up the corporate ladder, how they had made many mistakes, how they had been through ups and downs, how they had put up with bosses and lived to tell the tales, but at the end of the day, they were only get-along-to-go-along. They were survivors, not conquerers.
In the Bible, however, God’s faithful people frog leaped into high positions and wild successes regardless of how old, young, experienced, or inexperienced, they were. The key is to have faith at all time regardless of what state you are in. Daniel was in his early 20s, maybe barely 19, when he became a governer of a major province.
Here are some biblical examples of what attitudes we should or should not have based on this familiar account of teenager David Vs Giant Goliath:
Watch this quick video if you are not familiar with this Bible story:
Circumstance is scary:
1 Samuel 17:4-7
4 A champion named Goliath, who was from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. His height was six cubits and a span.[a] 5 He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels; 6 on his legs he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back. 7 His spear shaft was like a weaver’s rod, and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels. His shield bearer went ahead of him.
1 Samuel 17:11
11 On hearing the Philistine’s words, Saul and all the Israelites were dismayed and terrified.
1 Samuel 17:26
26 David asked the men standing near him, “What will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes this disgrace from Israel? Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?”
Should Not: (Experience’s talking)
1 Samuel 17:28
28 When Eliab, David’s oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he burned with anger at him and asked, “Why have you come down here? And with whom did you leave those few sheep in the wilderness? I know how conceited you are and how wicked your heart is; you came down only to watch the battle.” (SK: David’s oldest brother told David to go back to pay his due. War is not for kids! It is not your playground here)
1 Samuel 17:32
32 David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.”
Should Not: (More Experience’s talk)
1 Samuel 17:33
33 Saul replied, “You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth.” (SK: More experience’s talk. )
1 Samuel 17:34
34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, 35 I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. 37 The LORD who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.”
1 Samuel 17:38
38 Then Saul dressed David in his own tunic. He put a coat of armor on him and a bronze helmet on his head. 39 David fastened on his sword over the tunic and tried walking around, because he was not used to them.
1 Samuel 17:39-40
“I cannot go in these,” he said to Saul, “because I am not used to them.” So he took them off. 40 Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine. (David got guts!)
So there you go. Experience could be harmful. Not only does it not help sometimes, often times the wrong people with a lifetime experience of mediocracy could conform you into their medocracies of the same.
6. I will do Y if I have X
“If I stop sinning, I will…”, “If I finish reading the whole Bible, I will…”, “If I become the leader, I will…”, “After I take this course, I will..”, “When I have money, I will…”
Familiar isn’t it?
We will never have enough X’s to do the Y’s. X is just an illusion that is never enough, and Y is always postponed as long as we think we need X.
The sad reality is, not only do we always think we need X before we can get Y, but we also think we need W before we need X.
The list will extend as we grow up or age and become more “mature”. Finally we will accept the “reality”. Instead of going straight for the X, we start from A, and then B, and then C, and so on.
In point number 4, I discussed we often place our faith in the hows. In this point, we imagine a list of steps and hows that we don’t really need. We dread the X, and therefore the brain imagines the A to W out of thin air, to make us feel comfortable with procrastination.
A biblical example:
10 Moses said to the LORD, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.”
11 The LORD said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the LORD? 12 Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”
13 But Moses said, “Pardon your servant, Lord. Please send someone else.”
14 Then the LORD’s anger burned against Moses
When the Lord called Moses to work for him, Moses imagined he needed to be an eloquent orator, but the Lord was much more direct. God would give him what he needed to accomplish what he was called to do.
The combination of some or all of the points here creates a labyrinth in the victim’s mind. He will never reach the destination because of the labyrinth he is getting lost in. He starts from A, then B, C, D, B, A, E, B… wandering in the desert. He will never reach X, let alone Z. Many spiritual traps and mental detours mentioned in this article will make sure his destiny is forever deviated from God’s plan for him.
This is why the Bible says:
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the[c] paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.
Problem is, instead of pointing out the truth, ministers and teachers would call it the “desert experience”, and say it is a blessing in disguise. However, deserts are never positive in the Bible.
8. The Tyranny of Majority
People like security. They think if most people do it, then it is safe. The Bible says otherwise.
But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
Most people do not have faith, including many in the Churches. Going to churches doesn’t mean one is on the narrow road. Doing churches is still part of the broad road. The narrow road is to obey the Bible and do what it says.
It is the same for everything in life. Few people get the fruits at the tops. Few people find the right path to do things. Make sure you are prepared to walk alone, because doing the right things require us to walk alone.
We have all felt the need to copy someone and do what other people do sometimes, but when you get down into it, the wise ways to do things that make so much sense to us deep within are usually the best ways.
9. The Middle ground
The average between broad and narrow is still too broad. People think that if they take the average of every major position it would be safe, but it is not. Your life is at stake here. The middle ground between truth and lie is still lie.
This is why diversification and mutual funds will never get you retired early. If you listen to what most people say, and invest a little bit in everything, you will never come out ahead. The legendary investor, Warren Buffet, has lived in his hometown Omaha almost his entire life instead of the Wall Street, which is full of people who are at odds with the way Warren Buffet invests.
You don’t have to follow the crowd, nor do you have to take any middle ground in order to make it.
Don’t agree with what people say about you easily. You don’t have to agree to please. People like compromises and they want you to compromise as well. Take a stand in your belief and what you really want if it is biblical. Don’t ever let anyone put you through guilt trips or longer-cuts. You don’t need other’s permission to do what is right, as long as it is legal and biblical.
In the Bible, there are many stories that talk about how people were rewarded for standing their ground. (Numbers 14:20-25; Jeremiah 35; Daniel 1:11-20; Daniel 3; Daniel 6)
10. False Dilemma
Some of the most religious people often make this mistakes. Spiritual people are not exempted either. Both of them are not biblical believers, so this is why. They often think they can either have this or that, but not both. For example, many of them think they can only be humble if they are small guys doing small stuff for God. They refuse to reach out to the sick and lay hand on them to get them healed, because they think they would be proud if they can heal the sick.
The same faith that triggers the healing power of God is the same faith that enables us to be humble. We can’t truly be humble if we don’t follow God’s command and believe in His promises. He promised that “these signs will accompany those who believe: In my name they will drive out demons; they will speak in new tongues; they will…place their hands on sick people, and they will get well.” (Mark 16: 15-18)
Same for the absurd belief that we shouldn’t pray for prosperity and health. Being rich doesn’t have to be selfish or greedy. If I am rich, I will give as much as I can until I have just enough to live and do what I have to do.
Same for those who refuse to consider homeschooling their kids because they think their kids should know what the world is like, and have normal social life. Truth is homeschool kids in general are more mature, happy, intelligent, accomplished, and socially developed.
11. The “I Don’t Know”
Peope like to say “I don’t know”. We have to realize that this is a self-curse. If you say it all the time, it will cause you to become brain-dead. Have you wondered where that “mind fog” came from? It causes distraction, blank state, memory loss, and lack of clarity. For some people, they often see the answers in their mind. They are able to accomplish so much in life. It also happens that they are often the people who believe they will find the answers to things.
Intuition is spiritual. Don’t block your intuition and brain power by cursing yourself with “I don’t know”. You can download knowledge from God anytime.
3 ‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (SK: Even God doesn’t criticize you, so stop doing it to yourself, just ask for wisdom if you want it)
26 To the person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. (SK: Don’t be a whining sinner who works in vain for the his/her entire life)
2 turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding—
3 indeed, if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,
4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,
5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.
6 For the LORD gives wisdom;
from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
Just cry aloud for things that you want. Don’t say sarcastic things. Don’t do double talks. Don’t self depreciate.
For example, if you want to learn how to sing, the first thing is to cry for skill, knowledge, and anything you need from God. Many musicians don’t take official lessons. They just play by the ears. It just comes to them. This is spiritual. You have to master this skill too.
No wonder even though I had learned playing piano for six years, I had totally wasted my time. Without the score sheet, I couldn’t play any song. With a sheet, I can play immediately, but only with one hand. I have never played a song perfect without making a mistake or two, and bad rhythmn. And I couldn’t wrap my head around the music theory. I had failed music class again and again. It almost caused me to fail my honor program. I majored in Math, but the music classes were just elective courses.
Of course back then I had done all the mistakes that I am listing here.
12. False Humility
To avoid being hated by people, or punished by God, or doing any real work, many Christians practice unbiblical humility. This is totally self-destructive. Don’t say, “I am nothing”, “I am a sinner and will always be”, “I am not perfect because no one is perfect”, because it shows a lack of faith and it contradicts with the words of God, just like what happens below:
13 “You have spoken arrogantly against me,” says the LORD.
“Yet you ask, ‘What have we said against you?’
14 “You have said, ‘It is futile to serve God. What do we gain by carrying out his requirements and going about like mourners before the LORD Almighty? 15 But now we call the arrogant blessed. Certainly evildoers prosper, and even when they put God to the test, they get away with it.’”
If your words contradict God’s words, which words are right? If you dare contradict the words of God, then isn’t it arrogant? Isn’t that a rebuke against God?
To be fair, some Christians practice unbiblical humility only because they were influenced by the subtle, mixed teaching of the churches. This is a problem when people who fit the description of the previous paragraph become the teachers.
Again, God made it very clear what He wants for his people and from his people. He wants us to preach the Gospel, heal the sick, drive out demon, command the mountains to move, rebuke the obstacles before us, rule and conquer wherever we go, and live a life of excellence, (Mark 16:15-18; Mark 11:22-23; Mark 4:35-41;Joshua 1:3-9)
13. The Ever Mysterious God’s Will
People who don’t read the Bible say they can never know God’s will. People who read the Bible has said it too much while they still hadn’t read the Bible, and as a result it became a reality for them, and they kept saying it even though they have already read enough Bible to know what it says.
Saying we can’t know God’s will is a form of doubt. Without faith we can get nothing from God. (James 1:6-7) This is why many people could never finished reading the Bible and even if they do they are still oblivious to God’s clear will.
When I invite people to go out and pray for the sick, they would say it is not their style. When I tell them that God wants us to heal them, they would say they don’t know if it is God’s will for the sick to get healed. When I say it is God’s will, they say you can never know God’s will. It is a form of labyrinth thinking, see point 7.
Let’s see what the Bible really says:
17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. (SK: So God’s will is for us to know His will!!!)
Similarly, people have too many doubts and false belief when it comes to knowing God’s will, and it prevents them from achieving wild success like God wants them to.
14. The Ever Elusive Timing
People talk timing a lot. I think timing is also overrated. Usually when we are waiting for God, God is waiting for us too. Who is going to lose patience first?
8 Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?”
And I said, “Here am I. Send me!”
Again the word of the LORD came to me…”I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none…
I looked, but there was no one to help, I was appalled that no one gave support; so my own arm worked salvation for me, and my own wrath sustained me.
2 Chronicles 16:9
For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.
Our Lord is indeed the one who has been doing most of the wait. If we insist to return the favor, when will the waiting be over?
Instead, God wants us to push the envelope as long as it is not sinful. He wants us to move the mountains with confidence and faith. He wants us to keep pushing when the situation is called for. In order words, I am advocating for pushing for the timing to come sooner, rather than later.
He wants us to pray persistently and unashamedly (Luke 11:5-8; Luke 18:1-8). Sometime we overlimit God’s will, and we keep retreating until we say every prayer that isn’t answered is not God’s will, or the timing isn’t right.
For many sincere Christians, the problem isn’t praying with the wrong motives. The problem is they over spiritualize everything and become wishy washy. They don’t take a stand anymore. If a sick person remains sick, it’s God’s will to shape his character for his own good. If a sick person get healed by a doctor, then God healed him through the doc. If a sick person is healed miraculously, then God healed him, Yah!
They think everything that happens under the sky is God’s will, or if what needs to happen doesn’t happen it is because the timing hasn’t arrived yet. Who are we to question God’s will? We have the Bible to tell us what God’s will is, and he doesn’t want us to take ‘no’ for answer so easily. (1 John 5:14-15)
Some people have greater faith, and they experience more miracles. They wait less. Some people have weaker faith, and they experience less miracles. They wait more. It is that simple.
To say that the timing isn’t yet is just as presumptious as to say that now is the time. We don’t always know the timing of everything because we are not God, but one thing we know is that we can pray and push for it now.
If you think you are too young, or inexperienced, just wait and see. Sooner or later, young people left and right who are indeed young and inexperienced will have extraordinary successes that you thought you could not have when you were their age, and by then you might start to think you are too old too late too unlucky or too something.
Ultimately, we have to understand the Bible and meditate on the words of God day and night (Psalm 1). It is important to never contradict the words of God no matter how you feel, what you see, and what your past experience are. Anything that contradicts the words of God is a lie. It doesn’t matter whether you could tell it is a lie or not. If you don’t understand why it is a lie, just ask and God will show you.
The list above is certainly not end all be all. The Bible has a list of curses for those who violate the words of God too, so one must be careful to avoid those curses by being vigilant and walking by the Spirit at all time. There are many times that you might unwittingly compromising the moral standard such as by voting for a politician who supports abortion. God says it is cursable to kill, or be bribed into killing the innocent.
Being in this world, one must set himself apart, while relying on God’s supernatural power to not only survive, but to conquer in this world. We cannot just merely survive. There is no such thing as muddle through. The world is Satanic, and it only allows you to survive in it if you are part of the system, whether you are Christian or not. If you are a biblical Christian, the world will spills you out, persecute you, enslave you, or disable you, until it is subdued by you. You have no choice but to succeed. Which fate do you want to choose?