http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoMXF73j0c

Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus

Russell Willingham

Pure Desire: Helping People Break Free from Sexual Struggles

Ted Roberts

you can download them off of Amazon (Kindle) for something like ten dollars each.

and then there are (of course) the promises of God:

http://www.scripturepromises.com/

try checking out “Christ Has Set Us Free From Sinful Habits” and “Healing”

… but i want you to understand that there’s no quick fix to this problem. even long after you stop using masturbation as a way to bury your feelings (agony), you will still have to deal with the roots of your problem (and believe me it is at the very core of how you live and relate to others!) in essence, you have to sort of “own” the pain (by embracing it) and in this way you will gradually come to a place of wholeness/brokenness (i know it’s ironic) before both God and man.

i’m reminded of a TED talk i saw last year:

really fantastic stuff. it has to do with how we use addictions to numb the pain in our lives. (you’ll see)

i would also like to thank you Sai Kit for your blog — it has really helped me at some points of my life.

Think about positive thing. Let the Holy Spirit guides you into good imagination that is creative, loving, positive… Remember how we imagine good things as children. We lost this ability as we grew up, and we imagine fearful and unpleasant things instead. You may not realize it because it has become a habit so ingrained. We must relearn how to imagine biblical things, even making up good stories in the head. Think of it as a form of prayer and worship.

As women walk by, try to imagine how they will turn to God, surrender to his perfect will, and become godly women. Make up as many details as possible as the Holy Spirit guide you. It’s a form of intercessory prayer. The goal is to make you feel happy. If the picture isn’t making you happy but giving you more stress and lust, then you have to continue to do it until the mental movies are wholesome, fun, pleasant, and blissful.

Please understand that our imagination and words will find their way into reality, so like it or not, our thinking is either curse or blessing, to ourselves and others. If we relearn how to master our thoughts, our life would be an unending prayer and joy.

God bless.

But your article has shown me that we’re not supposed to fight it. God wants us to escape. You said we spend more time thinking about it when we’re fighting it, and it’s true. The more time you spend thinking about not falling, the louder the voice of lust becomes.

Thank you so much for this article. I’m going to try all of the things you suggested, especially “walking with god.” I need to get rid of this desire, and I can only do that through God’s name.

Thanks again for writing! You’ve been a huge help.